Catch Cheating Spouse

Benefits of Self-Nurturing

Carol Green — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 07:19:27 +0000

Being in an environment of mistrust and doubt really takes it out of you. Stress, worry, fear of humiliation, fear of finding your fears are true, all have a detrimental effect on your health and wellbeing. In the same way that it is important that you are able to find out the truth once and for all, it’s also important that you look after your health.

If you don’t look after yourself, how are you in your best condition to face what is happening in your life? How do you know that you are in your peak condition, able to think clearly and concisely, and able to make the right decisions about your relationship and the future of your marriage?

I get emails from a number of tired, stressed, and unwell clients. Sick or tired people make bad judgments and bad decisions. It’s easy to let things overwhelm you and react in a way that you may later regret. The trick with finding out the truth is in playing it smart. It pays to be on top of your game if you are going to outwit your partner.

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Then it’s time to find some ways to channel and eliminate stress from your life, and put things in perspective. Escape your issues for a while.

If you are in the midst of a crisis, take some time out and spend it nurturing yourself. Get a massage, a facial, a manicure, a haircut, or anything that helps you to relax or feel sexy. Remind yourself that underneath all that stress you are a person. It’s times like these when you realize that the only person looking out for you, is you. Treat yourself. When is the last time you took a day off, went shopping for clothes, had your hair cut, caught up with a friend for lunch or coffee? When was the last time you spread a blanket out on the grass and read a book? When was the last time you walked in the park, admired the view, listened to the sounds of life and nature around you, and felt the sun on your skin?

Make a list of things you can do on a day off:

go walking in a park or on the beach
buy an ice-cream
meet with old friends for coffee or a meal
get a massage
get your hair cut
get your nails done
get a facial
buy some new clothes
listen to a favorite CD
go for a drive somewhere nice
visit relatives
buy yourself some flowers
spend some time in a garden
meditate
burn some scented oil or light some incense
go to a yoga class
go for a run
ride a bike
go for a swim
lay on your back and watch the clouds
have a sleep in the sunshine
More importantly, when is the last time you noticed life going on around you?

One important realization I want to impress upon you is that no matter how desperate your situation may seem, it’s vital that you don’t immerse yourself in it completely. Live your life in balance. Notice life going on around you. Spend some time in it. Spend some time doing things you love, and spending time with friends and family members you love.

Then when you are refreshed and ready, you are able to refocus on your marriage situation.

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Looking Beyond The Evidence

Carol Green — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 07:17:32 +0000

When you first suspect your partner of cheating, even thinking about your partner with another person can cause unbearable pain. Adding to this the fact that your partner may go to a lot of trouble to hide any evidence, knowing for sure that he or she is humiliating you is even more difficult.

A number of frustrated spouses write in to me in desperation, against a brick wall when it comes to finding any evidence of infidelity. Partners delete incoming call lists, cellphone history, password-protect their computers, and setup private bank accounts that are impossible to track. They may disappear overnight or for several days, with no trace of where they have been or a viable explanation. For some people, the cheating partner almost seems invincible, waving their infidelity in the face of their partner, smug in their successful efforts in destroying and eliminating all damning evidence.

At this level it can almost become a power game, and for those people left struggling to make sense of what has happened, the infidelity is now only one part of a long chain of humiliations. Without sufficient proof, the cheating partner continues their behavior, defying anyone to prove otherwise.

But in looking at this, is there any hope? What do these people need to do to find the proof they need that their partner is cheating? How does a partner in need bring this to some sort of closure?

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Instead of focusing on the act of cheating, it may be helpful here to focus on the wider issues of lack of respect, hostility, humility, and arrogance. Instead of focusing on the cheating behavior, greater benefit may be derived through taking a step away from that and focusing on the motivation.

* What motivates your partner to be secretive?
* What motivates your partner to delete information from their phones?
* What motivates them to ignore your pain, and not answer your fears with love and reassurance?
* Does it take your attention away from having to deal with the bigger issues in your marriage?
* Do you need irrefutable proof to believe it is happening?
* Do you need an excuse to leave the marriage?

You don’t need proof of cheating to know your marriage is in trouble. Sometimes the ability to step back and examine the atmosphere of distrust in your marriage is enough to realize that things are horribly wrong. It may be about more than just cheating. If your relationship is in trouble, what has your partner done lately to demonstrate their love for you?

If your partner is keeping secrets from you and deleting information, instead of focusing on the proof lost, focus on the action. Why do they need to delete details? Focusing on the motivations instead of the proof may bring you closer to the answers you are seeking.

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Finding Long-Distance Proof

Carol Green — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 07:14:59 +0000

When your partner is in a different location to you, it is easy to let the element of doubt plague your mind. While you are busy working or keeping the home and caring for children, there is always the possibility that something is happening behind your back.

The temptation is strong because the geographical location enables many spouses to have indiscretions with little fear of being caught. This is especially true when the relationship is over a long distance, perhaps separate countries, as you don’t have the comfort and reassurance of physical contact with your partner on a regular basis.

I guess this is why they call relationships blind faith. There are no guarantees what is happening, so you have to rely on your instincts and faith. But what happens when this is not enough? What happens when the faith you have in your marriage is not enough to overcome your lingering fears?

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The first thing most people feel is fear and guilt. Fear of the unknown, fear of the humility and people knowing something that you don’t. Fear of the possibility that your partner doesn’t love you anymore and wants to be with someone else. And then there’s guilt, at losing faith in your relationship and doubting your partner’s integrity. What if you got it wrong? How do you know if it’s true or not? Is he or she having a long distance affair?

Your courses of action when your partner is living in another city are limited, but there still are ways that you can determine whether your partner is cheating on you or not. If you have the opportunity to visit your partner you can place tracking software on their computer, place GPS or digital recording devices around the vehicle they are using to see if their stories correlate with the data you are finding, hiring a private investigator to track their movements for a set period of time, and many others.

If you have a partner who is home regularly between trips you have the added advantage of semen detection kits, cellphone tracking software to recover deleted text messages, as well as ways to talk with your partner and notice any body language anomalies that point towards lying.

It may seem that long-distance relationships leave you feeling alone and marooned, often in more than one way, but there are a number of gadgets and techniques you can employ and tailor to fit the specifics of your situation.

All that is required is an open mind and a willingness to try.

Do you have access to your partner’s email account? Do you have access to your partner’s cell phone bill?

What would you do if you were told there are ways to access them?

The answer may be closer than you think.

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Resisting Retaliation

Carol Green — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 07:12:29 +0000

When I hear about couples that are cheating on their spouses, my first instinct is to feel for the spouse that doesn’t know. You know, the one that is living their life in a utopian-type of existence, misled by the assumption that their spouse is as devoted and faithful to them as they are.

It’s a cozy feeling, seeing and reading of other couples infidelity problems, not dreaming for a moment that it could be happening to you.

Until reality bites…

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It may be a gradual feeling of unease, a noticed brief moment of eye contact between your spouse and another, a comment out of context by a friend or colleague, a story that doesn’t quite add up. But in that brief moment, the foundation of confidence placed in your spouse and marriage starts to crack.

After the initial shock that it could even be happening, many people vow payback, revenge, and one of the more common reactions in terms of payback is the temptation to have an affair in retaliation.

A retaliatory affair would seem the most unlikely thing to do, considering the pain that the first affair caused, but it seems to be an increasing phenomenon, at least from the limited research I have done with members who have kindly offered feedback. To be honest, a retaliatory affair was the last kind of reaction I would have expected.

Sure, the anger is real, as are the feelings of hurt and betrayal, but interestingly many women and men who spoke to me were determined that they wouldn’t be seen as victims. Far from it, in fact, and many were determined to retaliate and do it in such a way that their partner may feel some of the hurt that they felt at the time.

Let’s be honest. Every one of us have times in our lives when we see someone that we consider to be very good looking, either a beatiful face, a beautiful smile, a beautifully proportioned body, or a confident demeanour that seemed both charismatic and magnetic. Good looking people are all around us. Yet it would never occur to us to take our initial attention or attraction to a person to the point where we would contemplate entering into a sexual relationship with them. After all, being married is a commitment, a promise of fidelity, a vow to honor one another.

We see beauty, but we don’t feel the compulsion to act on it.

However when your partner departs from this commitment in such a shocking and hurtful fashion, it leaves many questioning their beliefs, and indeed their fidelity. If their fidelity has resulted in them being cheated on and hurt so badly, surely it is okay to sleep with someone else to ‘even up the score,’ so to speak?

That co-worker that has made fleeting eye contact with you at the copier machine, the shop assistant that has inadvertently flirted with you, the friend of a friend that has made a point of talking to you at parties and comments on your looks, an ex whose contact details you still have or remember, all of these people are now potential playmates. After all, if it’s good enough for your spouse to do it, surely there’s nothing wrong with you doing it too?

The one determination of people in this position is that if they are going to have an affair they will do it better and with someone hotter.

Now I’m not saying all victims of cheating end up doing this, because many don’t. But the knee-jerk reaction to go out and have an affair as well is a common reaction that many people seriously consider and follow through.

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But does sleeping with someone else really make the infidelity hurt less? Does it make you feel better? Or is it one of those things you do at the time that you later live to regret?

I’m not going to tell you if it’s right or wrong, as it’s a judgment call that each of you are called to make as you comtemplate the reality of infidelity in your marriage.

But if it is something that you are seriously contemplating, have you given it enough thought? How are you going to feel at the moment you are cheating on your spouse? How are you going to feel after? Can you live with the knowledge and the consequences of your actions?

For many, it’s a ‘yes.’ But for many others, it brings a whole new raft of issues to what is already an emotionally-charged situation.

Interesting thought though. Is retaliation in the form of an affair okay or not? Would it make you feel better or worse?

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Warning Signs Of An Online Affair

Carol Green — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 07:10:20 +0000

The Most Important Warning Signs of an Online Affair

Affairs that are carried out over the internet are increasingly common, and marriage counselors report a sharp increase in the amount of couples that come to therapy each year as a result of an affair that has been carried out online. The greatest risk to a couple still involves co-workers, friends or neighbors, but the internet enables people to develop close relationships with others despite the distance or lack of social connection.

When a partner is developing a cyber-affair, there are a number of techniques and strategies you can employ. The first is that you check out How to Catch a Cheating Spouse:

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There are a few additional key pointers that indicate what is happening. They include:

Developing secrecy and a need for privacy.

If someone is conducting an affair online, their privacy, particularly how this applies to their computer usage, is suddenly very important. The computer may be moved to a less visible area of the house, the spouse may change their password to prevent you from accessing the computer when they are not around, and your partner may react angrily when you approach them or disturb them while they are online. In fact, disturbing them while they are online can tell you a lot about what is happening. Are they open about what they are doing? Do they get angry or defensive if you disturb them? Do they react with surprise and close their browser when you come near the screen? The volatility of their reaction will be able to indicate quite clearly if thier computer usage is something you need to be concerned about.

Change in home life and sleep patterns.

Internet chat room usage increased sharply after dark, so your partner may be motivated to stay up late and be part of the action. Getting to bed very late or getting out of bed very early in the morning may point towards your partner visiting dating sites and chat rooms to exchange emails with a new love interest. This change in sleep patterns can have a significant affect on your home life and your relationship with them. There may be little time for intimacy or communication in your marriage if your partner is spending late nights and early mornings at their computer.

Decline in household chores.

As a consequence of spending so much time online, the state of cleanliness in the house may start to suffer. The lawns might not be mown as often, dirty washing may pile up, dirty dishes may stay unwashed, and maintenance around the home may be neglected in favor of a few more preciouse minutes online. This decline in the household may signal a change in priorities. The investment in the online relationship may come at a cost to your partner’s contribution to the chores and to your relationship.

These are just a few of the major indicators of an online affair. To get the full story and find out for sure if your partner is straying online, get my course containing my truth-busting e-book as well as my explosive tracking software!

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How to Catch a Cheating Spouse – A Review

Carol Green — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 06:46:04 +0000

I recently had the opportunity to take a look over How to Catch a Cheating Spouse, by Sarah Paul.

Online author Sarah Paul is a dating and relatonships author, who has also turned her talents into helping people find proof of their partner cheating, an ever useful tool in modern relationships. Her How to Catch a Cheating Spouse course is an established and time-tested product that has been selling online successfully for a number of years:

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With the advent of internet dating, cellphones and personal organizers, it comes as no surprise that spouses are offered more opportunity and anonymity when choosing to cheat on their partner. This in turn makes it difficult for frustrated spouses to find the proof and put to rest the fears and demons they are experiencing.

At first glance, I was impressed by what I received. For an initial outlay of $37.00, I wasn’t expecting much. So I was delighted to find that my purchase got me not only two ebooks, but a bonus tracking software package that usually retails for $99!

The cheating spouse main ebook was what impressed me at first. 126 pages of material, which was much more than I had anticipated from an ebook. Sarah sure knows how to deliver the goods, and I felt quite confident that I would receive some great advice and information, which covers points from behavioral changes, to covert surveillance, to detecting lies, accidental slip-ups, finances, and some thought-provoking facts and figures to put all this behavior in context.

A really cool bonus for those of you that are a little less computer savvy is the “Spy Gadgets & Surveillance Made Easy” bonus book. If you have limited knowledge of the computer or internet, this book is a great way to get you up to speed on what your spouse is doing on the computer and how to track it. It teaches both basic and advanced monitoring skills, as well as telephone monitoring, room and audio monitoring, video surveillance, webcam and spy cam, as well as a number of other tracking systems and chemical tests.

And if that wasn’t enough, Sarah has generously decided to throw in Sherlock Pro, a computer tracking software package. You can record keystrokes, websites visited, and screencaps, and have the benefit of having the results emailed to you. It lacks some of the features of more highly priced tracking applications, but for a free bonus it’s pretty comprehensive and gives some good results.

And if there are any lingering doubts or questions, Sarah offers a free consultation with a member of the team. This is proof that she goes one step further than the rest to help you catch your cheating spouse!

For a one-time payment of $37.00 this How to Catch a Cheating Spouse package really delivers everything it promises. For frustrated spouses who want to get the truth and put and end to the doubt and despair of not knowing, I would recommend this course as a valuable first step.

But don’t just take my word for it, check it out for yourself!

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Best of luck,

Carol Green